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ComInG ouT To my famILy
COMING OUT TO MY FAMILY
“My parents didn’t speak to me for two years.”
One Sunday afternoon, I just told my parents that I am gay. My father
was reading the newspaper and he didn’t turn his head and my mother
thought it was a joke. They didn’t react at all. When they finally realised
it was the truth, they fought with me and didn’t speak to me for two
years. I will wait until they accept me, maybe in some months or years.
I have faced discrimination at my school, college and workplace because
of who or how I am. It used to hurt a lot earlier, but I have gotten used
to it. Now I have decided to live for myself, as the society who has
not even seen you and does not know who you are, does not leave me
with any other choice. The heart of the problem is being different and
people need to understand that being different is not a problem. This is
about feelings, it is just about being human.
Ketan
I want to talk to you about an incident which I think was unfair. The
incident is about a boy in Shillong who had undergone sex reassignment
surgery years ago and is now an independent female having her own
salon. Once, people mishandled her, took her out of the shop, tied
her up and slapped her. They even made a video claiming she had
kidnapped one man. The part I hate the most was that all the people
were just spectators and taking videos.
Katherine
On the first night of our marriage, my husband preferred sleeping
with his back towards me. He told me he was tired. It was the second
marriage for both of us and I thought we would become closer with
time but that day never came. Every day he made some lame excuses
to avoid coming close to me. He even said he hated the colour red
(usually the colour that a bride prefers) and me applying red lipstick or
wearing a red bindi repelled him. 5
COMING OUT TO MY FAMILY
“My parents didn’t speak to me for two years.”
One Sunday afternoon, I just told my parents that I am gay. My father
was reading the newspaper and he didn’t turn his head and my mother
thought it was a joke. They didn’t react at all. When they finally realised
it was the truth, they fought with me and didn’t speak to me for two
years. I will wait until they accept me, maybe in some months or years.
I have faced discrimination at my school, college and workplace because
of who or how I am. It used to hurt a lot earlier, but I have gotten used
to it. Now I have decided to live for myself, as the society who has
not even seen you and does not know who you are, does not leave me
with any other choice. The heart of the problem is being different and
people need to understand that being different is not a problem. This is
about feelings, it is just about being human.
Ketan
I want to talk to you about an incident which I think was unfair. The
incident is about a boy in Shillong who had undergone sex reassignment
surgery years ago and is now an independent female having her own
salon. Once, people mishandled her, took her out of the shop, tied
her up and slapped her. They even made a video claiming she had
kidnapped one man. The part I hate the most was that all the people
were just spectators and taking videos.
Katherine
On the first night of our marriage, my husband preferred sleeping
with his back towards me. He told me he was tired. It was the second
marriage for both of us and I thought we would become closer with
time but that day never came. Every day he made some lame excuses
to avoid coming close to me. He even said he hated the colour red
(usually the colour that a bride prefers) and me applying red lipstick or
wearing a red bindi repelled him. 5
