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My parents beat me up and threw me out of the house at 3 am when I told them that I wanted to marry
my Christian friend. We are Hindu. But I’m happy to say that I’m leading a wonderful life with a very
caring husband since six years.
-Samhita
--
By birth, I belong to a Brahmin family. I got married to a person who belongs to the so-called SC
community. I did not get any support from my family and so, at last, I opted for a court wedding. After
that, my family members stopped keeping contact with me.
But time was a good healer. Today, my husband is my mother’s favourite son-in-law. But my uncles and
aunts still hate me for marrying a person from a “lower” caste. That does not make any difference to me.
I am happy with what I have and I am proud of what I did.
-Mahua
--
Even though my husband and I belong to the same caste, my relatives have not accepted him as a family
member for the past 14 years. Though I’m quite happy in my married life, the scars of my difficult
wedding ceremony still remain in my heart. Are those who forbade me from going for a love marriage
sure that their children will not opt for a love marriage?
-Himani
--
I was in a relationship with someone but we parted ways because our families weren’t accepting an
inter-caste marriage and we didn’t want to fight with our parents anymore or hurt them. Now I’m
happily married and live in California, US.
When I told my husband that I will never let this happen to my son as long as he brings home a girl, my
husband asked, “What’s the difference between what you are saying now and what your folks did with
breaking your relationship?” He said, “You don’t have the right to pick your son's love, whatever the
caste, religion, country or gender may be. All we can do is coach him and support him in whatever he
does.”
So, my hope is that every generation learns to accept and support our next generations in their love
marriages - between castes and religions or marriages with a huge age difference or between the same
genders. Everyone has a right to love and live.
-Rajeshree
--
When our daughter got married to a Muslim guy, some of our Hindu relatives stopped talking to my
husband. What matters to us is that our daughter is happy.
-Savita
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my Christian friend. We are Hindu. But I’m happy to say that I’m leading a wonderful life with a very
caring husband since six years.
-Samhita
--
By birth, I belong to a Brahmin family. I got married to a person who belongs to the so-called SC
community. I did not get any support from my family and so, at last, I opted for a court wedding. After
that, my family members stopped keeping contact with me.
But time was a good healer. Today, my husband is my mother’s favourite son-in-law. But my uncles and
aunts still hate me for marrying a person from a “lower” caste. That does not make any difference to me.
I am happy with what I have and I am proud of what I did.
-Mahua
--
Even though my husband and I belong to the same caste, my relatives have not accepted him as a family
member for the past 14 years. Though I’m quite happy in my married life, the scars of my difficult
wedding ceremony still remain in my heart. Are those who forbade me from going for a love marriage
sure that their children will not opt for a love marriage?
-Himani
--
I was in a relationship with someone but we parted ways because our families weren’t accepting an
inter-caste marriage and we didn’t want to fight with our parents anymore or hurt them. Now I’m
happily married and live in California, US.
When I told my husband that I will never let this happen to my son as long as he brings home a girl, my
husband asked, “What’s the difference between what you are saying now and what your folks did with
breaking your relationship?” He said, “You don’t have the right to pick your son's love, whatever the
caste, religion, country or gender may be. All we can do is coach him and support him in whatever he
does.”
So, my hope is that every generation learns to accept and support our next generations in their love
marriages - between castes and religions or marriages with a huge age difference or between the same
genders. Everyone has a right to love and live.
-Rajeshree
--
When our daughter got married to a Muslim guy, some of our Hindu relatives stopped talking to my
husband. What matters to us is that our daughter is happy.
-Savita
72
