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I belong to a conservative Jain Marwari family and the guy I love is from a ‘lower caste’ Gujarati
community. All my relatives and even my younger cousins are opposed to our relationship. They say
that I will bring nothing but shame on the entire family.
They don’t even care about the fact that my relationship has been going strong for the past eight years. I
feel so low. The pressure to leave my boyfriend is so high. I know that my parents will constantly be
ridiculed by my relatives and reminded of my inter-caste marriage if I go against their wishes.
-Anindita
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I have done my MSc and am working as a cashier in a bank in Tamil Nadu. My dad is a manager in
another bank and my mother is a teacher. I love a guy from the Reddy caste. We are from the Mahar
caste. Because of caste differences, his parents and siblings are not ready to accept me.
My boyfriend’s sister is the principal of a college. His brother is an engineer and his father is a zamindar
in his village. It feels so bad that my caste is the reason why I’m being rejected. Why is my caste more
important than my qualifications and my nature?
-Tejali
--
I am a Maharashtrian girl from Mumbai and I am in a relationship with a boy who is Rajasthani for the
past five years. His family is not ready to accept us. They say that their relatives will break all bonds with
them if we marry. We wish to marry with their blessings only. So, please make his family understand
that an inter-caste marriage is not a sinful act.
-Vandana
--
I am an engineer and am working at a reputed firm in Ahmedabad. My girlfriend’s parents are so
opposed to our relationship that they have taken away her freedom to move around for the past one
year. They also take her to a tantrik who claims that I have done some supernatural things to the girl to
make her love me. We have begged them so much but they don’t want their daughter to have an inter-
caste marriage. We don’t want to marry secretly as we don’t want to hurt her parents.
-Pulkit
--
I have done an MBA from Bangalore. I got married in 2010. Since my parents were opposed to an inter-
caste marriage, I decided to marry my partner even though my family cut off all ties with me for three
years. I have had to make so many other sacrifices in my marriage, including my career. Both my
husband and his parents are just not allowing me to work outside of home. I had so many dreams for my
career. Why can’t my husband stand up for me?
-Shaila
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community. All my relatives and even my younger cousins are opposed to our relationship. They say
that I will bring nothing but shame on the entire family.
They don’t even care about the fact that my relationship has been going strong for the past eight years. I
feel so low. The pressure to leave my boyfriend is so high. I know that my parents will constantly be
ridiculed by my relatives and reminded of my inter-caste marriage if I go against their wishes.
-Anindita
--
I have done my MSc and am working as a cashier in a bank in Tamil Nadu. My dad is a manager in
another bank and my mother is a teacher. I love a guy from the Reddy caste. We are from the Mahar
caste. Because of caste differences, his parents and siblings are not ready to accept me.
My boyfriend’s sister is the principal of a college. His brother is an engineer and his father is a zamindar
in his village. It feels so bad that my caste is the reason why I’m being rejected. Why is my caste more
important than my qualifications and my nature?
-Tejali
--
I am a Maharashtrian girl from Mumbai and I am in a relationship with a boy who is Rajasthani for the
past five years. His family is not ready to accept us. They say that their relatives will break all bonds with
them if we marry. We wish to marry with their blessings only. So, please make his family understand
that an inter-caste marriage is not a sinful act.
-Vandana
--
I am an engineer and am working at a reputed firm in Ahmedabad. My girlfriend’s parents are so
opposed to our relationship that they have taken away her freedom to move around for the past one
year. They also take her to a tantrik who claims that I have done some supernatural things to the girl to
make her love me. We have begged them so much but they don’t want their daughter to have an inter-
caste marriage. We don’t want to marry secretly as we don’t want to hurt her parents.
-Pulkit
--
I have done an MBA from Bangalore. I got married in 2010. Since my parents were opposed to an inter-
caste marriage, I decided to marry my partner even though my family cut off all ties with me for three
years. I have had to make so many other sacrifices in my marriage, including my career. Both my
husband and his parents are just not allowing me to work outside of home. I had so many dreams for my
career. Why can’t my husband stand up for me?
-Shaila
69
