Child Sexual Abuse

Sir, I am victim of child abuse by a woman. I lost father at age 9, then to support my mom nad myself, i was a milk delivery boy. One lady who was making sweets from milk, ask me to deliver to her home, for want of business and money ot survive, I stated delivering. She abused me every day. As k me to touch , suck her.. and she did a lot to me also..till today, I have not told any one..you know why ? i was head of family at age 9-10, poor widow mother had no strength to listen to my situation. At that age, i did not know...What am i doing ? what is right and wrong ..Milk dairy was not taking unsold milk, She use to buy all leftover milk from me.. in lieu of our survival ...i was forced to do this ..for so long till i finish my college study..good 8-9 years. what do you call to this ... Even Women, also responsible for child sexual abuse.... jagdish vyas . jdvyas@hotmail.com

I am a big fan of Aamir, I remember one story from my childhood. I was studying in 7th class in boarding school and I had come for vacations and my parents used to send me for private tuition the teacher used to touch in absurd ways while teaching for couple of days I tolerated then I told my mom about the happenings initially she didn’t believe me and said he might be just expressing affection but as I denied the thing I did not go for the tuition. Next year my cousin went to the same teacher he came very next day to me asking me what was the reason for abandoning the tuition as we shared the same problem ,we decided to take a step. We put in all the things in a letter and pasted it outside the masjid. But it was removed by somebody and we didn’t see any reaction. Then we made a better poster and pasted it on all the electricity pillars of two adjacent colonies. Some people must have seen us doing this. As I live in Kashmir, the very next morning we had a banging on our door by few gun manned militants that were sent by the teacher. They forced us to accept in front of the public that this was a false defamation. However we never did that and we spoilt allhis career as a private tuition.Now I am a grown up man. I am working as a doctor and taking care of people with disability. I hope aamir will definitely make one episode to see the problems faced by the disabled in our country.I am proud of you AamirWarm regards,romantough@gmail.com

Amir Sir,

Firstly i will like to thnk you to bring such a rare topic again on children’s. It is a very proudy work bcoz u r raising the voice of those sweets who can’t fight for themselves. I am himanshu baghel from agra pursuing b.tech of age 20 years. My father is a building contractor and my mom is a teacher. It’s about my story when i was at the age of 10 years. A man who is the father of my best friend and lives near about to my home. My family is very familiar to them. It was the time when my dad went to work and my mom is at my friend home. When he knows that there is no one at my home, he call me and take me to my home. When we were talking he suddenly forcing me for some dirtness and then he raped me. After three or four days later he again found the same situation and he again raped me. Sir, that was the time when i lived such a fearfuul life but as the time passes i maintain myself and made me strong. now i m living a normal life, even i have a girlfriend and we r in relationship from the last 3 years, she knows about my past and after hearing that she loves me more than before. Now my life is full of joy but sometimes that darkness of my past comes over my joy. To watched ur show now i will be more and stronger. and thank u again for such a wonderfull work you are doing. you have my best wishes. Hope my story can fullfill some of them with a hope.

Thank You.

I don't remember the exact day when this started, and thinking now, don't find it important enough. Never been able to tell about this to my parents since last 30 years but today possibly I will call up my mom and tell her the entire story. I was probably in class 5 when my chacha who was preparing for bank used to come down to our house for 8-10 days in a month. He used to love me a lot, buy me chocolates etc. My parents used to ask me to sleep with him and he used to lock the door while coming to sleep. After 2-3 days, I found him putting his hands inside my pant. I didn't knew how to react and kept silent. This continued for few days after which he used to lower my pant and rape me. I was unable to face him the next morning and neither would he ever look at me. Slowly I was scared of sleeping with him but since my parents loved him a lot, they used to force me sleeping with him. Every month he used to come down for 8-10 days and would repeat the same with me. I was shocked and didn't know whether my parents would believe me because they loved him so much. This went on and on for next 7-8 years. After joining he moved to Guwahati and used to come down twice a year but during those days, he used to come down to our place rather than going to his village. He used to tell papa that he loves him more than his parents; thinking back now, I believe he used to come down for me always. I used to tell my parents always that I don't want to sleep with him but they never listened to me much. One fine day, when i was in +2 1st year, he tried to repeat the same, I got up, opened the door and went to living room and slept on sofa all night. Next day onwards it stopped completely and so was his annual visit to our home. After few years, he got married and my papa had gone to attend the marriage whereas I didn't. My parents are still in touch with him, but I am sure after today or next week, they will stop this too. Thanks Aamir for giving me the courage to speak out. I am feeling so lighter today after 30 odd years. I don't know if you believe this story or not, but at least I am happy that I have spoken my mind out. This entire episode of 6-8 years have brought out a bitterness on me for males and made me more close towards females. After that, I feel more secure with women than men. Since my parents never listened to me, I lost my self-confidence which was very difficult for me to get back. Since last 9 years, I have been reading a lot of self-help books to make myself feel better, confident because I know only I can help myself, no one else. Thanks Aamir.

Hello sir, this is Dr S, i am 29 years of age now n married. I saw the child abuse episode today 13th May 2012. I was sexually abused by my uncle, my dad’s real brother. He did it to me when i was just 5 or 6 yrs.I dint even know wat he was doing. He did all nasty things to me. Even today it haunts me.And till today i am not able to share my abuse wth my parents. I dnt even remember my age till when he did this to me.He used to insert cloth in my mouth or cover my mouth so dat i cldnt shout. I hate him...i also never told my parents about it, because i thot they wld shout at me...Just wanted to share my abuse... jst dnt knw how to forget the thing which haunts me even today... Hats off to u sir,Ur doing a nice job..!!!!

Hello aamer ji, m dua karti hu ki jo koshish aap kar rahe ho usme aap zarur kamiyaab ho.aapka aaj ka topic meri zindgi se milta h,shayad m bhi unhi baccho me se hu jinhone ye sahan kiya or kisi ki maddat bhi nahi le paye, m jab shayad 10 saal ki bhi nahi thi tab se hi mere pita ne mere sath wo kiya jo shayad kisi ko nahi karna chahiye tha.hr raat wo hota jiske baare me m kuch na janti thi or na hi kuch samjhti thi,aaj un baato ko kareeb 15 saal ho gaye,par aaj bhi wo raate mujhe yaad h.meri maa to mujhe paida karne ke baad hi kisi ke sath bhaag gai,or mujhe duniya me ye sab sahan karne ke liye choud gai.meri maa ne bhot logo se samband banaye or papa ne bhi,par na jane kyu kabhi marne ki himmat nahi ki maine ,kyuki m dekhna chahti thi ki meri zindgi me dukho se m jeet pati hu ya nahi. mere saath mere papa,or kai logo ne anginat baar sex kiya,yaha tak ki 17 saal ki umar me mane ak baccha bhi giraya. aaj tak wo insaan mere sath sex karne ki firak me rahta h,par maine ab khud ko un sabhi logo se dur kr diya h ab m apni zindgi khud jeeti hu,akeli. mera ak sawaal h or m chahti hu ki aap logo se ye sawaal kare ki 'kya hum ladkiyo ko khush rahne ka,husne ka,ya bina kisi dar se jine ka koi huq h.?'.kya kabhi hum bina dar ke apni zindgi ko ji payege ?,kya koi esa kanun nahi banaye ja sakta jiski saza esi ho ki log hum par nazar dalne se bhi dare? agar aap betiyo ko paida karne ke liye logo ko jaga rahe h,to kya aapne ye socha h ki un betiyo ka kal kya hoga?,wahi jo aaj ho raha h? betiyo ko paida karne se pahle unki suraksha ki sochiye. log beti se nahi darte balki uske sath jo pareshaniya hoti h usse darte h,aaj m bhi yahi sochti hu ki agar betiyo ka yahi haal h to beta hi sahi h,magar sach me main ak beti ki maa banna chahti hu,par dar lagta h...........? aaj maine apni zindgi ki sacchai aapke sath baati h,ak wishwas or aasha ke sath,umeed h ki ak din meri beti bina dar ke bahar ki duniya me kadam rakh payegi. thx,is show ke liye,shayad ab log jaag jaye...

I was young and was of 10 years when one of my friend of my age started this with me doing sex we both did and both were guys and from that i had done this with many other children younger than me till the age of 18 years but when i came to a matured stage i had done this thing with other younger kids of my age group i still feel so much guilty in myself about i was in this for 8 years i think that it’s a stage of a disturbed mind whether it may be a kid or a elder person i feel till today that it all started with me from a friend of mine who was of my age like a play and i was so innocent i enjoyed that play but today as i am matured i understand that that was day of my start of failure in my life till today i am failure in my life i was a total kid but i was unable to share it with my parents as my father was very strict and i was very naughty kid i was scared of my father and i never shared myself with him this habit developed in me because of my non sharing with my parents i am just writing this because i wanted to bring this story also in mind of other people also that a child s mind is very soft and sensitive if we are not good in sharing with our child then in 1 way or other we are not his parents coz we will never know what he needs what he want to share my father didn’t became my good friend so this disease carried with me for 8 years spreading around with kids of my age and others but till today i am guilty of it and will remain guilty whole my life how i was in this dirt that spoiled my precious period of my life and till today i remember that time i was so full of dirt i just feel sorry and want to forget it ? kindly share so that in many families where father and mother are too strict and there children might be in this with a start of a game coz my friend told me that lets play a game and your child gets into this dirt and put other children also in this dirt please read and share!

sir, main lucknow me rahata hu b.sc. 2nd year ka student hu. aaj k pahale main yahi sochata tha k keval main he child sexual abuse se releted hu but aaj maine jb satyamevjayate dekha tb pata chala k boys bhi child sexual abuse me fase hai. batate hue hichkichahat si ho rahi hai but main pichhale 12 sal se ye dard sah raha hu. hala ki 2 sal se hm khud ko bachate aa rahe hai. mera sosan karane wala aur koi nahi mere taau ka beta jo mujhase 10 sal bada hai usane kiya.main bhi ladko aur admiyo se darta tha k wo kaisa hoga.aaj show dekhne k bad main chaurahe pe aya ittefaq se wo samne taha.puri himmat juta k maine use jordar tmacha mara hai aaj. road pe sb dekh rahe the wo kuchh bola nahi but i am sure ki wo samjh gaya akhir usane bhi to show dekha hoga. bahot dhanyawad prerna dene k liye ki aaj main us dohari jindagi se mukt ho gaya anjam jo hoga dekha jayega.but ab bahot ho chuka.... main khus hu ab...

Thanks for another eye opening episode. My 9 year old son watched the whole episode and after half an hour he came to me and told me that his table tennis sir touched him in the danger area .I was shocked and asked him everything, he told me he just touched there and the sir had left the school long back. should i go to the school authority? Thanks a lot for making this easy for a child to tell his story

Ajj apka show dekh kr maine apni 7 years purani chupi ko toda aur bachpan mein jo mere mama ne mere saath kiya wo sab apne parents ko btaya....!!apka show dekh kr mujhme himmat aayi aur maine wo sab kuch bta diya jo mere saath hua...!! Ander se pal pal mrti thi jab us pal ko yaad krti thi....!!sochti thi k kese btau..mummy papa ko...kinn sabhdo ko ke saath...!! Ajj show dekh kr maine kuch nhi socha bus jo hua wo kehti hi gyi...buss....!! Thanks alot satyamev jayate and amir ji...!! Ab mai ander se pal pal nhi mrugi...!!! Mai apka saath hmesha dugi...16 saal ki hu...marte dam tak apka saath dugi...!!kyunki jab hm ladkiya kisi ka saath deti hai toh pure dil se deti hai...bus hm jiska saath de uske irrade pakke or majboot hone chahiye...!!kisi bhi mushkil mein or poora india apke saath hai...!!take care nd best wishes!!!

Childhood is said to be the most purest part of one’s life... but unfortunately i dnt hav any such pure memories of my childhood... I was in std 4 when my grandfather first abused me... i was shocked... actually I was never told about these things so i never knew what was happening with me... I was abused by him for 5 yrs till he used to touch over wrong places... there were nights i couldn’t sleep as some incidents took place when i fell asleep... i used 2 lock my room... but very next i couldn’t ans my mom why i do so... when in std 9 i had the courage to stop him... the courage to oppose him... I always thought of telling to my parents but never had the courage to do so... I always was always afraid that my parents would never believe me. Years passed now I am 21 years old... still i thinking about those..... tears rolls down my cheek... i was moving over this... when last year my cousin told who was in std 6... About a incident took place with her she wasn’t able to understand... the culprit was again my grandfather... the moment i heard that i broke up... and i decided i wont let her suffer... i confonted my grandfather warned him... the told my parents about it... every one asked me why i was quiet .till now and i had no answers... i always feel guilty about my sis... i if would had confronted my parents earlier she wouldn’t hav to suffer... i can never forgive that him... he took all childhood frm me... I really thanks my aunt who supported me a lot more than my mom.......