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I am also a survivor. I did my class 12 from a small village and then went to my
aunt’s house in a metro city for graduation. Initially, I was happy that everything
was going well but after some time, my uncle began touching me and kissing me
awkwardly.
I told my mother about it. I was surprised that my mother was not standing up for
me. She told me that nobody would say he did it; everyone would say I did it. I
completed my graduation but I was under fear all the time. I was awake even during
my sleep. I will never forget these things. I don’t want to marry because I feel that
every male is like that only.
I thought my father would do something about what had happened to me. When I
told my father about my uncle after 10 years, my father thought I was lying. Aaj
bhi uss insaan ko dekh kar main marti hoon, nafrat hoti hai apne aap se. Kya mere
mummy-papa itne majboor hai ki woh samajh nahi pa rahe hai ki main sahi hoon
ya galat? Aur agar jhooth bolungi bhi toh kya aisa jhooth bolungi?
-Manju
If a child discloses their abuse to you, remember that he/she has placed
their faith in you and expects you to believe them and help them. A
caregiver must take irm steps to comfort the child, seek professional
help, and stop the cycle of abuse. A negative response towards the
disclosure can drive the child’s trauma deeper. A positive, empathetic
response can be an immense breakthrough and relief for the child.
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aunt’s house in a metro city for graduation. Initially, I was happy that everything
was going well but after some time, my uncle began touching me and kissing me
awkwardly.
I told my mother about it. I was surprised that my mother was not standing up for
me. She told me that nobody would say he did it; everyone would say I did it. I
completed my graduation but I was under fear all the time. I was awake even during
my sleep. I will never forget these things. I don’t want to marry because I feel that
every male is like that only.
I thought my father would do something about what had happened to me. When I
told my father about my uncle after 10 years, my father thought I was lying. Aaj
bhi uss insaan ko dekh kar main marti hoon, nafrat hoti hai apne aap se. Kya mere
mummy-papa itne majboor hai ki woh samajh nahi pa rahe hai ki main sahi hoon
ya galat? Aur agar jhooth bolungi bhi toh kya aisa jhooth bolungi?
-Manju
If a child discloses their abuse to you, remember that he/she has placed
their faith in you and expects you to believe them and help them. A
caregiver must take irm steps to comfort the child, seek professional
help, and stop the cycle of abuse. A negative response towards the
disclosure can drive the child’s trauma deeper. A positive, empathetic
response can be an immense breakthrough and relief for the child.
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