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Domestic Violence
My mother has suffered domestic violence for more than 40 years. My dad used to shut her in the room
and beat her up with slippers and hockey sticks. Once, he broke a hockey stick while beating her. He still
raises his hand on her although he is close to 78 now. Last year, he stopped giving her any money and
she is totally dependent on him. I have never understood why he beats her and have stopped talking to
him for the last one year. He is an ex-army personnel and very well-respected in society.
-Aryaman
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My sister’s husband tried to kill my sister by throttling her last year. She fainted and survived but was
not able to speak. Somehow, she managed to message us, “Jaldi aa jao, mera gala dabaya hai. Meri
awaaz chali gayi hai.” She has been married to him since the past 12 years.
She was tolerating all this for the sake of her family and with the hope that after having a child, he might
change. Now, she has two twins who are four months old and he has turned more violent. He even
threatened to throw their son under a car. On the same day, he was about to throw their daughter from
the first floor.
We complained on 100, the police number. We took her to the hospital for her medical checks. The local
police station refused to register an FIR as there were no major injuries on the girl. The SHO said, “Koi
case nahi banta. Yeh toh aam baat hai.” Kya kisi ka gala daba ke usse maarne ki koshish karna aam baat
hai? That means until she is injured or dead, there is nothing we can do. We have to wait for her to die
and then the police will do something.
-Suchitra
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My husband is under the control of his mother. He does everything she says. He does not give me a
penny because his parents have told him not to. When I was pregnant, he would assault me. Once, he
pushed me towards the gate and I was hurt badly but he was least bothered. I have cried so much since I
got married to him five years ago.
His parents don’t believe me when I tell them how he hits me. My parents have told me to adjust adding
that things will get better in a few years but I don’t believe that. My first pregnancy resulted in a
miscarriage and my husband is not willing to try for a baby anymore. I feel so lonely that I want to run
away from this place.
-Manju
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My 50-year-old neighbour who works in a government institution treats his family like they are his
slaves. He drinks and beats his wife and kicks her on the face and chest. He also abuses his children. His
wife shares her pain with my wife. I cannot interfere in their personal life but can you help them?
-Noorie
--
My mother is a victim of domestic violence but I can’t do anything about it because my mom feels that I
need to wait until I complete my studies. My dad is a defence personnel and we’ve tried complaining to
his commanding officer but they support him saying that he’s a very good person and helps everybody.
Why doesn’t anybody understand that I’m just a 15-year-old teenager and I need love but instead, I’m
beaten up like I’m some animal? We can’t get separated right now because we’re financially weak.
-Janki
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My mother has suffered domestic violence for more than 40 years. My dad used to shut her in the room
and beat her up with slippers and hockey sticks. Once, he broke a hockey stick while beating her. He still
raises his hand on her although he is close to 78 now. Last year, he stopped giving her any money and
she is totally dependent on him. I have never understood why he beats her and have stopped talking to
him for the last one year. He is an ex-army personnel and very well-respected in society.
-Aryaman
--
My sister’s husband tried to kill my sister by throttling her last year. She fainted and survived but was
not able to speak. Somehow, she managed to message us, “Jaldi aa jao, mera gala dabaya hai. Meri
awaaz chali gayi hai.” She has been married to him since the past 12 years.
She was tolerating all this for the sake of her family and with the hope that after having a child, he might
change. Now, she has two twins who are four months old and he has turned more violent. He even
threatened to throw their son under a car. On the same day, he was about to throw their daughter from
the first floor.
We complained on 100, the police number. We took her to the hospital for her medical checks. The local
police station refused to register an FIR as there were no major injuries on the girl. The SHO said, “Koi
case nahi banta. Yeh toh aam baat hai.” Kya kisi ka gala daba ke usse maarne ki koshish karna aam baat
hai? That means until she is injured or dead, there is nothing we can do. We have to wait for her to die
and then the police will do something.
-Suchitra
--
My husband is under the control of his mother. He does everything she says. He does not give me a
penny because his parents have told him not to. When I was pregnant, he would assault me. Once, he
pushed me towards the gate and I was hurt badly but he was least bothered. I have cried so much since I
got married to him five years ago.
His parents don’t believe me when I tell them how he hits me. My parents have told me to adjust adding
that things will get better in a few years but I don’t believe that. My first pregnancy resulted in a
miscarriage and my husband is not willing to try for a baby anymore. I feel so lonely that I want to run
away from this place.
-Manju
--
My 50-year-old neighbour who works in a government institution treats his family like they are his
slaves. He drinks and beats his wife and kicks her on the face and chest. He also abuses his children. His
wife shares her pain with my wife. I cannot interfere in their personal life but can you help them?
-Noorie
--
My mother is a victim of domestic violence but I can’t do anything about it because my mom feels that I
need to wait until I complete my studies. My dad is a defence personnel and we’ve tried complaining to
his commanding officer but they support him saying that he’s a very good person and helps everybody.
Why doesn’t anybody understand that I’m just a 15-year-old teenager and I need love but instead, I’m
beaten up like I’m some animal? We can’t get separated right now because we’re financially weak.
-Janki
3
