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It took me six years to realise that the violence at home will end up taking my life some day or make me
disabled. I come from a very educated middle-class family and was brought up with the strongest value
systems. I was working as a software professional and earning a decent amount of money as well. And
yet, I continued to take the crap from my husband - physical assaults every now and then which left me
bleeding and sore.
Sometimes, folks in office even asked me why I was all blue but I used to make vague excuses like I fell
from the stairs, etc. Somehow, I continued to endure it all thinking that my love can change him and
that I should protect my marriage.
Finally, one day, I gathered enough courage to walk out of his home even though I didn’t have any
money on me. God sent two women who gave me shelter before I moved into a rented appartment.
Initially, most of my acquaintances told me that I was making too much out of it and should give him
another chance. I was very clear that six years was too long. It’s been more than ten years now.
I have received so much recognition for my work, have travelled around the globe and succeeded in
whatever I took up. As soon as my financial situation improved, I began with financially adopting a few
girls. My way of saying “Thank you, God.”
-Sharon
--
I have gone through physical and mental torture by my husband. I have two children but my husband
did not take any responsibility for their education. When I was completely alone, not a single person
supported me, not even my own relatives.
Today, my son, a scientist, has an MTech from IIT Bombay and a PhD in Engineering from Purdue
University in US. Along with taking care of my son’s education, I tried to make him a good human being,
not just a man and I think I have been successful! My daughter who is doing an MTech is also very
strong, emotionally and physically, and both my kids care for me.
As Rabindranath Tagore had said in one of his poems, “Jodi tor dak shune keu na aashe, tobe ekla cholo
re”. That is, “If no one responds to your call, then go your own way alone.” I followed this my whole life!
-Svati
--
Your marvellous show has given me the courage to narrate my own story of suffering at the hands of my
first husband whom I gladly agreed to marry at the age of eighteen to escape the atrocities of my step-
mother.
From the first night, his violence and suspicious behaviour made me wish that I die. Just like the brave
ladies on your show, I could not take the decision to walk out of home till he attempted to strangulate
me.
With children aged six and two years, I went back to my father who supported me and sheltered me but
one of my three brothers thought that I had come back to take share of the family property and turned
me out of the home. By that time, I had sold my meagre jewellery and had completed a beauty course
which gave me and my children sustenance for many years till another soul walked into my life and the
meaning of marriage, life and love changed forever.
I still cannot understand why I tolerated the violence and abuse for seven years. Now I am a happy
person though. Thank you.
-Renu
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disabled. I come from a very educated middle-class family and was brought up with the strongest value
systems. I was working as a software professional and earning a decent amount of money as well. And
yet, I continued to take the crap from my husband - physical assaults every now and then which left me
bleeding and sore.
Sometimes, folks in office even asked me why I was all blue but I used to make vague excuses like I fell
from the stairs, etc. Somehow, I continued to endure it all thinking that my love can change him and
that I should protect my marriage.
Finally, one day, I gathered enough courage to walk out of his home even though I didn’t have any
money on me. God sent two women who gave me shelter before I moved into a rented appartment.
Initially, most of my acquaintances told me that I was making too much out of it and should give him
another chance. I was very clear that six years was too long. It’s been more than ten years now.
I have received so much recognition for my work, have travelled around the globe and succeeded in
whatever I took up. As soon as my financial situation improved, I began with financially adopting a few
girls. My way of saying “Thank you, God.”
-Sharon
--
I have gone through physical and mental torture by my husband. I have two children but my husband
did not take any responsibility for their education. When I was completely alone, not a single person
supported me, not even my own relatives.
Today, my son, a scientist, has an MTech from IIT Bombay and a PhD in Engineering from Purdue
University in US. Along with taking care of my son’s education, I tried to make him a good human being,
not just a man and I think I have been successful! My daughter who is doing an MTech is also very
strong, emotionally and physically, and both my kids care for me.
As Rabindranath Tagore had said in one of his poems, “Jodi tor dak shune keu na aashe, tobe ekla cholo
re”. That is, “If no one responds to your call, then go your own way alone.” I followed this my whole life!
-Svati
--
Your marvellous show has given me the courage to narrate my own story of suffering at the hands of my
first husband whom I gladly agreed to marry at the age of eighteen to escape the atrocities of my step-
mother.
From the first night, his violence and suspicious behaviour made me wish that I die. Just like the brave
ladies on your show, I could not take the decision to walk out of home till he attempted to strangulate
me.
With children aged six and two years, I went back to my father who supported me and sheltered me but
one of my three brothers thought that I had come back to take share of the family property and turned
me out of the home. By that time, I had sold my meagre jewellery and had completed a beauty course
which gave me and my children sustenance for many years till another soul walked into my life and the
meaning of marriage, life and love changed forever.
I still cannot understand why I tolerated the violence and abuse for seven years. Now I am a happy
person though. Thank you.
-Renu
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