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My father has physically abused my mother and it has disturbed all of us so badly that even after so
many years, the memories are so fresh in my mind. Once, when I was seven years old, my father was
hitting my pregnant mother with an umbrella on her stomach. I hate my father. In society, he is a
respectable person but only we know his real face.
-Teresa
--
My cousin sister was harassed by her stepmother. She is now married to a man who is a drunkard. They
have a baby girl of four years. She is just given 100 rupees for the whole month and even the brothers of
her husband, both elder and younger, along with their spouses, beat her very badly. If she protests
against them, then they call the police at home.
Once, the police kept my cousin at the police station for four-five hours saying that she is mentally
unstable. Her husband has also taken her to the mental hospital stating that she is unstable which was
never the case. He also tried to strangle and kill the baby girl once. She is not in a position to do
anything as her stepmom has also treated her very badly since her childhood.
-Jimit
--
My mother-in-law says that every husband has a right to beat up his wife if she does not listen to him.
My mom says that you have to adjust in the family. I hate my in-laws and my husband too. When my
husband goes on tour, I feel so good without him. My kids hate their dad. For me, marriage is a heavy
burden that I have to carry. I have been going through this for the last 19 years.
-Tara
--
I am an Indian but I live in Germany. I got divorced a year ago but I am in deep pain and feel I can’t bear
it anymore. My ex-husband and his family didn’t get any punishment and are living happily. No one is
ready to help me. If I ask for help, my friends ask me to just forget about it. But how can I forget that my
husband and in-laws used to beat me? They tried to burn me, starve me and did so many other painful
things...
-Natasha
--
My husband hits me and pushes me very badly during every fight. This has been happening since the
last two years. After most fights, he says, “Jaanu, you know na, you are my love. It’s only you whom I
can show my frustrations to since you understand me.” Is this the way of showing your anger? He hits
me like anything. I am just trying to draw some lines with him. But it’s the same emotional blackmail
every time. Now I have started being a bit aloof from him.
-Dhriti
--
I am a software engineer from Gurgaon. I got married last year. I don’t have any support for household
work from my husband. My mother-in-law has set a rule that “Hamaare yahaan mard kaam nahi karte.”
I earn as much as my husband, yet, I am treated like I earn nothing.
Here are some other things that my in-laws have told me:
“You will have to do what your husband tells you to do because he will always be right.”
“Tu apne husband se nahi dabti.”
“Husband agar wife se pehle uth jaaye ya apna blanket khud fold kar le, toh wife ko paap lagega.”
-Lavanya
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many years, the memories are so fresh in my mind. Once, when I was seven years old, my father was
hitting my pregnant mother with an umbrella on her stomach. I hate my father. In society, he is a
respectable person but only we know his real face.
-Teresa
--
My cousin sister was harassed by her stepmother. She is now married to a man who is a drunkard. They
have a baby girl of four years. She is just given 100 rupees for the whole month and even the brothers of
her husband, both elder and younger, along with their spouses, beat her very badly. If she protests
against them, then they call the police at home.
Once, the police kept my cousin at the police station for four-five hours saying that she is mentally
unstable. Her husband has also taken her to the mental hospital stating that she is unstable which was
never the case. He also tried to strangle and kill the baby girl once. She is not in a position to do
anything as her stepmom has also treated her very badly since her childhood.
-Jimit
--
My mother-in-law says that every husband has a right to beat up his wife if she does not listen to him.
My mom says that you have to adjust in the family. I hate my in-laws and my husband too. When my
husband goes on tour, I feel so good without him. My kids hate their dad. For me, marriage is a heavy
burden that I have to carry. I have been going through this for the last 19 years.
-Tara
--
I am an Indian but I live in Germany. I got divorced a year ago but I am in deep pain and feel I can’t bear
it anymore. My ex-husband and his family didn’t get any punishment and are living happily. No one is
ready to help me. If I ask for help, my friends ask me to just forget about it. But how can I forget that my
husband and in-laws used to beat me? They tried to burn me, starve me and did so many other painful
things...
-Natasha
--
My husband hits me and pushes me very badly during every fight. This has been happening since the
last two years. After most fights, he says, “Jaanu, you know na, you are my love. It’s only you whom I
can show my frustrations to since you understand me.” Is this the way of showing your anger? He hits
me like anything. I am just trying to draw some lines with him. But it’s the same emotional blackmail
every time. Now I have started being a bit aloof from him.
-Dhriti
--
I am a software engineer from Gurgaon. I got married last year. I don’t have any support for household
work from my husband. My mother-in-law has set a rule that “Hamaare yahaan mard kaam nahi karte.”
I earn as much as my husband, yet, I am treated like I earn nothing.
Here are some other things that my in-laws have told me:
“You will have to do what your husband tells you to do because he will always be right.”
“Tu apne husband se nahi dabti.”
“Husband agar wife se pehle uth jaaye ya apna blanket khud fold kar le, toh wife ko paap lagega.”
-Lavanya
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