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E ven I was sexually abused from the age of 5 to 13 by my cousin. I never knew
what it was then. It felt so pathetic.
-Ajinkya
I am a 49-year-old woman. I was sexually abused from when I was 5 years old to
when I was 12 years old by my mother’s cousin. I struggled until I was 45 in the
aftermath of this. I could not have a normal physical or emotional relationship with
my husband. He was very patient but eventually he lost his patience and we got
divorced when I was 45.
I did not seek counselling because people of my generation and my parents thought
that was only for ‘crazy’ people. I did not have children because I was so afraid of
this happening to my children. I am now alone with no husband and no children.
My mother’s cousin now has a wife and children whereas I am alone. How is this
fair? I told my parents 12 years ago and they told me to get over it as it happened
a long time ago.
-Yogita
One of the many reasons why people don’t disclose abuse
is worry about what people will say. Sexual abusers thrive
in this secrecy. Breaking the secrecy is often the irst
step in ending the cycle of abuse. Sharing your painful life
experiences with others can be liberating and help you heal
better.
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what it was then. It felt so pathetic.
-Ajinkya
I am a 49-year-old woman. I was sexually abused from when I was 5 years old to
when I was 12 years old by my mother’s cousin. I struggled until I was 45 in the
aftermath of this. I could not have a normal physical or emotional relationship with
my husband. He was very patient but eventually he lost his patience and we got
divorced when I was 45.
I did not seek counselling because people of my generation and my parents thought
that was only for ‘crazy’ people. I did not have children because I was so afraid of
this happening to my children. I am now alone with no husband and no children.
My mother’s cousin now has a wife and children whereas I am alone. How is this
fair? I told my parents 12 years ago and they told me to get over it as it happened
a long time ago.
-Yogita
One of the many reasons why people don’t disclose abuse
is worry about what people will say. Sexual abusers thrive
in this secrecy. Breaking the secrecy is often the irst
step in ending the cycle of abuse. Sharing your painful life
experiences with others can be liberating and help you heal
better.
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