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I am a doctor and so is my husband. We are currently residing in UK. His family stays in Faridabad. I
am a victim of domestic abuse - both verbal as well as physical. Both our families are aware of the
situation but my parents want me to stay on in UK. They are asking me to separate from him only when
I take up a job (currently, I am on maternity leave). They say that coming back to India is a bad idea as I
have two small children and the pay of a doctor and the life of a single woman are better here in UK than
in India.
A month ago, my husband slapped my child hard and put his hands around my neck and threatened to
poke his fingers in my eyes. He pulled my hair with both his hands and blamed me for everything that
was happening. Following this, I took my two children and stepped out of the house. My first instinct
was to call the police but it was only the thought of his career that stopped me as it has in the past as
well. My parents at first asked me to come back but the next day asked me to stay put and search for a
job.
My husband also has an ongoing problem with alcohol. He behaves obnoxiously when he is drunk.
When I was about to deliver, he was calling me all the dirty names under the sun and questioning the
paternity of both my children. He misbehaved with my family as well. But it seems everything is soon
forgotten and forgiven by everybody including my parents. Ours was a love marriage. Life has become
unbearable with him.
-Ruchita
--
For the last 16 years, my elder sister is suffering from mental and physical torture. It is not only limited
to her but every day, my parents are also abused verbally. We have done all possible things for help.
When her husband was serving in Indian Navy, we complained to the senior officers but they asked us
to adjust.
That she is beaten up can be seen on her body and face. She has broken down completely and gone into
depression.Whenever such things happened, my father brought her back with her kids. Then, again she
would go back. Her elder son who is 16 now is staying with his nana-nani. He doesn’t want to go back
because he is also beaten and threatened so much that once he wanted to commit suicide. I always
wonder why my sister feels that she has to stay in this hell. Why can’t she stand up against him and say,
“I won’t stay with you”?
-Tanmay
--
My stepfather beats my mother cruelly. My mother, a teacher, is our breadearner, not him. I just want
my mother to have a happy life with her husband and my stepbrother. Your show gave me hope that he
will change.
-Khalid
--
I had a friend in Udipi whose husband was impotent. He would hit and batter my friend. Finally, her
parents got to know about this and they were divorced after six years of marriage.
-Shakuntala
--
I am trapped in my in-laws’ house and no one is helping me to get out. I don’t want to take a legal step
though I have consulted NGOs and the National Commission for Women. I work from home. I have a
seven-year-old son and I am 27 years old. My husband left the house and my in-laws are not allowing
me to step out from home. I am very depressed.
-Trinayani
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am a victim of domestic abuse - both verbal as well as physical. Both our families are aware of the
situation but my parents want me to stay on in UK. They are asking me to separate from him only when
I take up a job (currently, I am on maternity leave). They say that coming back to India is a bad idea as I
have two small children and the pay of a doctor and the life of a single woman are better here in UK than
in India.
A month ago, my husband slapped my child hard and put his hands around my neck and threatened to
poke his fingers in my eyes. He pulled my hair with both his hands and blamed me for everything that
was happening. Following this, I took my two children and stepped out of the house. My first instinct
was to call the police but it was only the thought of his career that stopped me as it has in the past as
well. My parents at first asked me to come back but the next day asked me to stay put and search for a
job.
My husband also has an ongoing problem with alcohol. He behaves obnoxiously when he is drunk.
When I was about to deliver, he was calling me all the dirty names under the sun and questioning the
paternity of both my children. He misbehaved with my family as well. But it seems everything is soon
forgotten and forgiven by everybody including my parents. Ours was a love marriage. Life has become
unbearable with him.
-Ruchita
--
For the last 16 years, my elder sister is suffering from mental and physical torture. It is not only limited
to her but every day, my parents are also abused verbally. We have done all possible things for help.
When her husband was serving in Indian Navy, we complained to the senior officers but they asked us
to adjust.
That she is beaten up can be seen on her body and face. She has broken down completely and gone into
depression.Whenever such things happened, my father brought her back with her kids. Then, again she
would go back. Her elder son who is 16 now is staying with his nana-nani. He doesn’t want to go back
because he is also beaten and threatened so much that once he wanted to commit suicide. I always
wonder why my sister feels that she has to stay in this hell. Why can’t she stand up against him and say,
“I won’t stay with you”?
-Tanmay
--
My stepfather beats my mother cruelly. My mother, a teacher, is our breadearner, not him. I just want
my mother to have a happy life with her husband and my stepbrother. Your show gave me hope that he
will change.
-Khalid
--
I had a friend in Udipi whose husband was impotent. He would hit and batter my friend. Finally, her
parents got to know about this and they were divorced after six years of marriage.
-Shakuntala
--
I am trapped in my in-laws’ house and no one is helping me to get out. I don’t want to take a legal step
though I have consulted NGOs and the National Commission for Women. I work from home. I have a
seven-year-old son and I am 27 years old. My husband left the house and my in-laws are not allowing
me to step out from home. I am very depressed.
-Trinayani
19
