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I work as a CEO for a German company in Singapore and am facing domestic violence and dowry
harassment from the in-laws of my daughter. We are not willing to bow to their demands and have
brought my daughter and her three-year-old son to our place in Delhi.
My daughter is working as an HR executive with a leading five-star hotel and is now facing court cases
of divorce and child custody from her husband who is a top manager in a leading multinational
consultancy, earning over Rs 40 lakhs per annum. His father is a retired class one officer in Central
Government.
-Mrugesh
--
One of my relatives, a well-mannered, innocent girl who has a BTech in computer science, got married
at the age of 24 years. Everyone liked the boy she was marrying because he was working in Silicon Valley
in US and earning nicely. The girl’s parents happily agreed for the marriage. But before the wedding, the
groom demanded Rs 15 lakhs in cash and gold.
As it is customary in Andhra Pradesh to give gold, the girl’s parents gave it by selling their land which
they had wanted to gift their daughter. Many more dramas unfolded till the wedding got over. A few
days later, the couple went to US. Then, more or less, what you have shown on your show happened to
the girl. He used to beat her like anything. She became very weak. He didn’t let her to come to India also
for long. She somehow managed to come to India fearing he would kill her and her one-month-old son.
She came back alone with her son and started living with her parents. She kept on calling him but he
never replied, never called and never came back.
Now it is more than two years that she is staying with her parents with her small son...waiting, waiting
and waiting. She along with her relatives filed an FIR also but the boy’s parents ran away to US. He is
not even giving her divorce because he has to pay for her then. The girl is in a lot of depression. She is
my sister-in-law.
The background to the story is that her parents married her off in a hurry because their elder daughter,
my wife, did love marriage with me. Somewhere, I feel guilty. I feel that it is my responsibility to bring
my sister-in-law out of her situation. I am an army officer and can’t bear such injustice.
-Shailendra
--
In 1975, my dad gave a dowry of Rs 5,000 to get my eldest sister married. I was a five-year-old boy then
and did not understand what it was but I do know that he paid back this loan over five years. For a low-
income family, this was a big deal. After many years of being married and four kids (three of which were
girls who died as infants under mysterious circumstances, the final one is a boy who survived), that guy
dumped my sister and married another lady and had two kids with her.
My dad who feared approaching the police and the law tried hard but could not stop the harassment.
Since then, my sister has been living with the support of our parents and brothers. Today, she has a
good life and is a grandmother of a wonderful boy. When my brothers and I grew up, all three of us got
married without taking any dowry and we are proud of it.
-Nishant
--
I was married to an NRI in UK and suffered extreme levels of domestic violence perpetrated by my
husband due to dowry issues. He took away all my earnings during the period of our marriage and
refused to return any of it.
-Sachi
36
harassment from the in-laws of my daughter. We are not willing to bow to their demands and have
brought my daughter and her three-year-old son to our place in Delhi.
My daughter is working as an HR executive with a leading five-star hotel and is now facing court cases
of divorce and child custody from her husband who is a top manager in a leading multinational
consultancy, earning over Rs 40 lakhs per annum. His father is a retired class one officer in Central
Government.
-Mrugesh
--
One of my relatives, a well-mannered, innocent girl who has a BTech in computer science, got married
at the age of 24 years. Everyone liked the boy she was marrying because he was working in Silicon Valley
in US and earning nicely. The girl’s parents happily agreed for the marriage. But before the wedding, the
groom demanded Rs 15 lakhs in cash and gold.
As it is customary in Andhra Pradesh to give gold, the girl’s parents gave it by selling their land which
they had wanted to gift their daughter. Many more dramas unfolded till the wedding got over. A few
days later, the couple went to US. Then, more or less, what you have shown on your show happened to
the girl. He used to beat her like anything. She became very weak. He didn’t let her to come to India also
for long. She somehow managed to come to India fearing he would kill her and her one-month-old son.
She came back alone with her son and started living with her parents. She kept on calling him but he
never replied, never called and never came back.
Now it is more than two years that she is staying with her parents with her small son...waiting, waiting
and waiting. She along with her relatives filed an FIR also but the boy’s parents ran away to US. He is
not even giving her divorce because he has to pay for her then. The girl is in a lot of depression. She is
my sister-in-law.
The background to the story is that her parents married her off in a hurry because their elder daughter,
my wife, did love marriage with me. Somewhere, I feel guilty. I feel that it is my responsibility to bring
my sister-in-law out of her situation. I am an army officer and can’t bear such injustice.
-Shailendra
--
In 1975, my dad gave a dowry of Rs 5,000 to get my eldest sister married. I was a five-year-old boy then
and did not understand what it was but I do know that he paid back this loan over five years. For a low-
income family, this was a big deal. After many years of being married and four kids (three of which were
girls who died as infants under mysterious circumstances, the final one is a boy who survived), that guy
dumped my sister and married another lady and had two kids with her.
My dad who feared approaching the police and the law tried hard but could not stop the harassment.
Since then, my sister has been living with the support of our parents and brothers. Today, she has a
good life and is a grandmother of a wonderful boy. When my brothers and I grew up, all three of us got
married without taking any dowry and we are proud of it.
-Nishant
--
I was married to an NRI in UK and suffered extreme levels of domestic violence perpetrated by my
husband due to dowry issues. He took away all my earnings during the period of our marriage and
refused to return any of it.
-Sachi
36
